When my husband and I decided to try for a baby, I naively thought it would happen immediately. I assumed it was a one-and-done process. I had a romanticized version of reality in my mind—a movie-type love scene between the two of us, a positive test, and a glowing start to motherhood. What I didn’t anticipate was the emotional and spiritual journey that would unfold over three months.

For some, three months might not seem like a long time to conceive, but when you’re in the midst of the process, every cycle feels like an eternity. I transitioned into a different season. In one season, my cycle was something I prayed to God would pop up after being late a few days. Now it is something I dreaded having and praying to God that He delayed for 9 months. Here’s how it all unfolded for me and the lessons I learned.

Month One: The Hopeful Start

The first month, I was full of optimism. I did a little research into the most effective ways to get pregnant. I downloaded a period tracker app that would tell me when I was ovulating and fertile. That app stayed open on my phone for MONTHS! I checked it like I would check my Amazon delivery status.

Every time up to this point, my husband and I took many precautions before having sex. Now that baby-making was on the table, it created a new experience. We were both filled with excitement, nerves, and anticipation.

For our first night trying, we created the perfect scene! Candles lit, Spotify playing our “Beats Between The Sheets” playlist, and a bubble bath with the jets going. You have to make the first time special right? LOL.

At the end of the night I thought that in just a couple of weeks, I would be running around my house screaming “I’m pregnant! I’m pregnant!” But when the test came back negative, my heart sank. I told myself, “It’s okay—most people don’t conceive on the first try. Next month will be different.”

Month Two: Anxiety Creeps In

By the second month, I was even more determined than the first. Forget the candles and music, I just wanted the job done!

To make matters worse, I was paying too much attention to social media. It was like my feed knew I was trying to get pregnant, and my page was flooded with stories of women who were posting their baby announcements. For the cherry on top, we had a couple of friend of ours who were trying around the same time as us and she became pregnant on their first try. With focusing too much on others, that’s when the lingering thought occurred: ”What if something’s wrong?”

I tried harder this month if that’s even possible. I googled the best positions, scheduled date nights, and made sure every aspect of my health was in check. Despite my efforts, my period came and my excitement dwindled a little more.

I became overwhelmed by the thought that my body might not be working in the ways that it should. My husband comforted me, reminding me that this was a journey. It was a small but important reminder.

Month Three: A Different Perspective

April rolled around. This is my birthday month! I started telling myself that this was the month all along and that I would find out on my birthday that I was pregnant. I checked my calendar at the beginning of the month, I made note of my fertile week, and a spark of new excitement came over me.

During my birthday week, my app showed that my period would be projected to start. I kept telling myself “Not this time.”

I went on a women’s retreat the weekend of my birthday. It was wonderful. My friend Stephanie who is the founder of the women’s ministry Christian Girls P.O.P. asked me to share my testimony in one of the breakout sessions. After I finished speaking, I went to my room to lie down for a nap. That’s when I felt the all too familiar feeling of my period coming on.

I just about broke down. “This was our third month trying! I don’t understand what’s going on. Is it me? Can I not have kids? God, YOU showed me this vision. You told me it was time to start a family yet You’re denying me every single time! Why? I don’t understand…”

I called my husband and told him everything. As encouraging as his words were, I could hear the sadness in his tone. When I made it home he sat me down and presented a different perspective.

He mentioned that we couldn’t control everything. Even though we both felt like we had received the blessing from God to start a family, it still happens in His time. I was filled with so much anxiety and fear that the joys of making a baby decreased. So, I decided to let go and let God. While I still tracked my cycle, I decided to focus less on obsessing over the details and more on enjoying the process. My husband and I treated the end of April differently than the last few months—less like a project and more like a partnership.

What I didn’t know at the time which was later revealed at our first ultrasound, was that the week right after my period, the last week in April, I became pregnant.

The Positive Test

I’ll never forget the morning I woke up feeling like something was different. As I lay next to my husband in bed, I rolled over and said ”I think I’m pregnant.”

It was Sunday, May 14th, 2023: Mother’s Day! I leaped out of bed and said again “Babe, I think I’m pregnant!” He asked me how did I know. I couldn’t quite put into words what I was feeling but I just knew. I ran into the bathroom to grab our last on-hand pregnancy test. We only ever purchased the Clear Blue brand that had a digital display. I needed to be able to read the words to know for sure.

I was so certain that I was pregnant that I dashed to get my phone to record this very moment. My husband was still lying in the bed looking confused as I ran around the room getting everything. He then asked “Babe, are you sure? You haven’t missed your period for this month yet.” He was right. It had been just three weeks since my last period and my next one was due in two weeks. But I just knew.

I took the test and laid it flat on the sink so that we couldn’t see the results. Intrigued, my husband made his way out of bed and joined me in the bathroom. We waited two minutes and I made a dash to grab the stick. My eyes were met with the words ‘Pregnant'!’ It was a mix of disbelief, joy, and relief. I screamed “Oh my goodness!” And my husband was staring at the stick like he saw a ghost. Neither one of us could believe our eyes. We hugged, laughed, cried, and couldn’t stop talking about how surreal it felt.

Two more weeks passed…and this time…NO PERIOD!! I was finally pregnant and the beginning of my motherhood journey began.

Looking back, those three months taught me patience, resilience, and the ability to let go of things I cannot control. While the wait felt endless at the time, it was all worth it when we saw that positive test.

What I Learned Along the Way

1. Patience is key. For most healthy couples, conception can take several months. It’s normal, even if it feels like forever.

2. You can’t control everything. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is take care of your mental and physical health while letting go of the pressure.

3. You’re not alone. Whether it’s your partner, family member, friend, or online community, others understand what you’re going through.

4. Every journey is unique. Comparing your experience to others will only add stress. Focus on your path.

Final Thoughts:

Trying to conceive is an emotional roller coaster, full of highs, lows, and unexpected turns. For me, those three months were a lesson in patience and self-compassion. If you’re in the middle of your TTC journey, know that it’s okay to feel all the emotions—hope, frustration, and even doubt.

Remember, this is your marathon, and every step brings you closer to your finish line. Hang in there, mama-to-be—you’ve got this.

What About You?

How did you find out you were pregnant?

I’d love to hear your stories!

Share your thoughts in the comments below—or share them with us in the Facebook Group! If you would like your story to be shared on our podcast, email your story to ddjoyjohnson12@gmail.com and I will connect with you on how we can share your story!

Here’s to motherhood and all the moments that make it magical.

Until next time,
Dominique Johnson
Founder of Go-Get.Hers

As a mom, one of the most memorable stories we have is the one that began it all for us: The story of how we became pregnant! No one story is the same and that’s what makes motherhood uniquely beautiful. Some moms have the “Oh crap! How did this happen? I’m pregnant!” story. Other moms have the triumphant sigh of relief “Thank you, God! I’m finally pregnant” story. While a handful have the “I’ve planned for this and it’s right on time” story. Whatever the story, one thing that we all share is that we have became moms.

For me, the decision to become a mom wasn’t one I made lightly. I knew it would be one of the biggest, most life-altering choices ever. If I can be real with you, a lot of my decision to become pregnant was from seeing many girl bosses turned mommies on social media and watching how they “did it all.” One thing I didn’t consider at that time was how people love to post the best versions of themselves and not always their reality. It was a true reality hit after my daughter was born but that is a story for another day.

I’ve always known I wanted to be a mom. Even as a little girl, I’d dream about the day I’d have a family of my own. But knowing you want something and knowing when you’re ready for it are two very different things.

How I Knew It Was the Right Time

My husband and I are what you may call childhood sweethearts. We met when I was 14 and he was 13. I don’t know how you would classify dating at that age, but we held hands and texted every day. So, for us, it was official LOL. Being so young, and having a long-term relationship was too icky. So, after a summer-long “relationship” we broke up and for the following 5 years, we remained just friends.

In 2017 we met back in college and have been inseparable ever since. In 2021 we got married, got into our careers, traveled the world, and bought our first home. Life was busy, as it always is, with work, relationships, and personal goals. I kept thinking, When things settle down, that’s when I’ll try.

But here’s the thing: life doesn’t really “settle down.” What shifted for me wasn’t a perfect set of circumstances; it was my perspective. And a perspective shift was exactly what I needed.

I am a planner at heart. If I could, I would love to plan out the rest of my life. I know you’re probably laughing at that unrealistic idea. Trust me, if there is one thing I’ve learned over and over again being a mom, is how you think something will turn out, it rarely ever does.

At the age of 25, I planned out how I wanted to have kids. My first child would be born when I was 26, then 28, and the last two at ages 29 and 30. I’m 27 right now with a beautiful 10-month baby girl and a precious baby who is a giggling angel in heaven. Plans truly change when life stops. That’s another part of my story I look forward to sharing with you too.

In 2022 I wanted my baby plans to begin! What I wasn’t expecting to feel was fear. I was thriving in my real estate career. My husband and I were enjoying being young and newly married. I started to think about how all of that could change with just one baby.

So, I started to push that timeline back bit by bit. But that only caused this internal war of emotions to grow: should I leap? Or should I delay?

One day, in my quiet time with God, I had a special moment shared between the two of us—one of those moments where the world slows down just enough for me to hear clearly from Him. I found myself smiling and at peace when He began to show me images of what life would look like with a baby in it. He reminded me how my husband and I were so full of love that we needed to pour that into a beautiful creation perfectly blended with the two of us.

And then it hit me: I wasn’t waiting for the right time; I was waiting for the right feeling.

That feeling of readiness wasn’t about having everything figured out—it was about a deep desire to create something beautiful, share my love in a new way, and embrace a new chapter of my life, no matter how messy it might get.

The Journey Ahead

Deciding to try for a baby was a deeply personal and emotional moment for me. It marked the beginning of a journey filled with anticipation, hope, and a lot of learning. And while I didn’t know everything then—and still don’t—I knew I was ready to start.

For every mom, that moment of readiness looks different. For some, it’s a conversation with a partner. For others, it’s a moment of clarity, like the one I had. And sometimes, it sneaks up on you when you least expect it.

What About You?

There’s no universal checklist or perfect timing to becoming a mom. It’s about trusting yourself and your heart.

I’d love to hear your stories:

• What inspired you to become a mom?

• How did you know it was the right time for you?

• How did you find out that you were pregnant?

Share your thoughts in the comments below—or share them with us in the Facebook Group! I’d love for this to be a space where we all learn from and encourage one another.

Here’s to motherhood and all the moments that make it magical.

Next time, I’ll be sharing my crazy emotional roller coaster of trying to become pregnant and the test that changed it all.

Until next time,
Dominique Johnson
Founder of Go-Get.Hers

Welcome to Go-Get.Hers!

Motherhood cannot be described in a single word or phrase. It’s a mixed bag: It’s beautiful, transformative, empowering, unconditional, joyful, rewarding, and legacy-building. At the same time, it’s challenging, sacrificial, messy, emotional, exhausting, patience-testing, and, let’s be honest, downright overwhelming at times. From sleepless nights and messy kitchens to first steps and proud mom moments, this journey is one of a kind. But here’s the truth: You don’t have to go through it alone.

That’s why I’m so thrilled to welcome you to Go-Get.Hers, a community where moms come together to share, support, and grow. Whether you’re a first-time mom, a seasoned pro, or somewhere in between, this is your space to connect, laugh, cry, and thrive with women who understand exactly what you’re going through.

We all share this wonderful title of “mom.” One of the most beautiful aspects of our motherhood journey is experiencing it in an assortment of ways. That’s what I want to pull together and present to all moms: different techniques, unique perspectives, varying backgrounds, empowering testimonies, struggles made into strengths, and so much more.

Why I Created Go-Get.Hers

As moms, we often wear so many hats: caregiver, teacher, chef, chauffeur, therapist, and so much more. It’s easy to feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. It’s easy to feel like we are the only woman on this planet who is going through IT. It’s easy to lose our voice, identity, and purpose when we have to do so much pouring out. It’s easy to feel like the world won’t slow down enough for us to just breathe when we lose that precious baby during pregnancy. All of that and so much more is a part of my motherhood story. I felt the weight of it all before realizing something critical—I didn’t have to do it all alone.

That’s when the idea for Go-Get.Hers was born. I wanted to create a space where moms like you and me could share our stories, celebrate our wins, and lean on each other during the tough days. Because motherhood is not a solo sport; it’s a team effort. We don’t just have to survive in motherhood, we can thrive in it!

What You’ll Find Here

At Go-Get.Hers, we’re all about:

1. Honest Conversations: No sugarcoating here. We’ll dive into the joys, struggles, and everything in between. This is the space for the real, raw, and uncut mom in you!

2. Inspiration and Encouragement: Stories and insights to remind you just how strong and capable you are. Whatever you are comfortable sharing, we would love to hear it. Bring us into your world and share your journey.

3. Practical Tips: From parenting hacks to self-care strategies, we can all help each other navigate the chaos. Let’s be honest, have you mastered your “me time” yet? I haven’t!

4. Community Connections: Meet other moms who just get it.

Why Every Mom Needs a Tribe

No one understands the highs and lows of motherhood quite like another mom. Your tribe—your people—can be the difference between feeling overwhelmed and feeling empowered. They’re the ones who remind you it’s okay to not be okay, to ask for help, to take a break, and to celebrate the small victories.

That’s what Go-Get.Hers is all about: creating a tribe where moms come together to lift each other up, share their experiences, and cheer each other on.

Let’s Go Get It, Together

This is just the beginning of an incredible journey, and I’m so glad you’re here. I look forward to sharing more of my story with you and hearing yours as well. Let’s build a community where we support each other, grow together, and remind ourselves daily that we’re stronger than we think.

Here’s to motherhood, friendship, and going after our goals—together.

What’s one thing you’re navigating right now as a mom? Drop it in the comments or share in our Facebook Group—I’d love to hear your story.

With love and support,
Dominique Johnson
Founder of Go-Get.Hers